- How did the day go? What success did I experience? What challenges did I endure? 2. What did I learn today? About myself? About others? What do I plan to do—differently or the same—tomorrow? 3. Whom did I interact with? Anyone I need to update? Thank? Ask a question of? Share feedback with?
So the first time someone does something that makes me feel uncomfortable, I simply notice it. The second time, I acknowledge that the first time was not an isolated event or an accident but a potential pattern, and I begin to observe more closely and plan my response. The third time? The third time I always speak to the person about it. It’s my rule of three.
Whatever your issue, when the beep sounds, take a breath and use that one-minute pause to ask yourself whether you’re being the person you want to be. Ask yourself if you’re trying to accomplish too much. Or if you’re focusing on the wrong things. In other words, disrupt the source that destabilizes you. Reduce the overwhelm. Reconnect with the outcome you’re trying to achieve, not just the things you’re doing. Then you’ll react less and achieve more.