if you’re feeling overwhelmed, see if getting a little distance from yourself helps.
called “distanced self-talk” can help foster psychological distance, a phenomenon that leads to better emotional regulation, self control, and even wisdom.
Emotional regulation, simply described, is the broad set of strategies that people use to change or modify what they’re feeling.
Besides feeling a little silly, you’ve really got nothing to lose by trying to talk to yourself in the third person, Nook said. “Whether they’re doing it privately to themselves or in the mirror before work or in a journal,” Nook said. “All of these are great strategies to try out and see if they work.”